Our Anna Rakeb has been home with us now for a little over a year. In some ways, it feels like she’s always been here.
Many people considering the adoption process wonder if they could love a child that was not born to them. I wondered the same thing — everyone does! But I am here to tell you that, yes, most definitely, you will learn to love this child just like any other child that comes into your family!
Some people shy away from adoption because they think that their biological children might have a hard time with it. Maybe they will feel slighted, or loved a little less, they imagine.
I can’t speak for every family, but even though our four boys went into this adoption with a little fear and trepidation, now that we are one year in, we can say that it has been a blessing for each one of us!
When the boys talk about their futures, most of them now include the snippet… “and I’m going to adopt…” which just makes me smile at the ripple effects 🙂
So, if God is opening your eyes to the needs of the fatherless in this country or around the world, say YES with a heart of faith, knowing that it will be a wonderful experience for each one in your family to love another with the love that God has given you.
Recently I asked the boys a few questions about their experiences with having a little sister join the family through adoption. Thought you might enjoy a little sneak peek into their minds.
Mom: Did you know what adoption was before we adopted?
Getting a kid
Yes – taking kids into your family that the parents gave them up or died
Yes – God adopting us into His family
Mom: Did you have any fears?
Excited that she was from a different country
That she would be ugly
That she would be all pink
Mom: What did you think it would be like to have a sister?
All pink & stuff
Pink princesses and barbies; if I can prevent that, then she would be more normal – like you, mom
Mom: How has Anna changed our family?
Everybody crowds around her
Made it a little more cute and happy
We had to buy more girly stuff
She steals all our stuff
Mom: Do you love her?
Yes (while sitting on the rocking chair with her)
Yes! Of course
Mom: How has adoption changed you, your view of people of different races or cultures?
Makes me appreciate other cultures more
Mom: Do you want to adopt someday?
If I have all of one (gender), then I’ll adopt the other
Mom: What does adoption teach you about God?
That we were chosen into God’s family
That God loves everyone
That God adopts us into his family
Mom: What do you remember about God’s provision for the money to adopt Anna?
We had a $2000 fee and people gave us money.
That He loves us
People are watching after us and helping